Planning to propose during Taylor Swift’s Eras Tour? Think again, relationship experts say.

Business Insider spoke to relationship coaches Kate Mansfield and Tammy Nelson, who said couples should make sure their reason for proposing has nothing to do with social media.

Mansfield said an Eras Tour proposal could be “really romantic” but urged couples to ensure their motives were deep.

“Using trends to influence such a life-changing decision is a bad idea,” Mansfield said. “The trend will inevitably end, and then you’re stuck with a spouse. Make sure it’s a good fit.